Internet dating buddhists

17-Aug-2018 04:57

In the midst of this endless longing I lost myself.I was longing for a love I felt I did not already have inside of me.Start browsing pictures of Fort Myers single Buddhist women and flirt with those you like. This is a confessional piece about a recent…[ummm manic]…online dating episode I had a few weeks ago. Now take that pull, that force, give it digitized-crack and red-bull and make it accessible at an instant.Wasn’t it vulnerability researcher Brene Brown who charmingly referred to her own tumultuous rush as a mental breakdown in her viral 2010 Ted Talk…or was it a spiritual awakening…I can’t remember) And because, like I said, I am a really good Buddhist practitioner, I sunk into the abyss of these questions while I created my profile. No pictures that made me look too goofy, or too serious, too fat or too skinny. I wanted to get this point across: I AM a young, sensitive, attractive gay male who is actively engaged in several spiritually based, contemplative communities. The stuff about insecurities and vanity or any of the other things I am red-handedly guilty of feeling on any given Tuesday at 2 p.m. Those accomplishments that are framed and hanging up on my bedroom wall. All of the exciting things, none of the weird things. And so, after carefully curating a dating profile replete with words like “authenticity” and “purpose” and “organic kale”, I had successfully shared with the world the perfectly dateable me….right?I sunk so deeply that I promptly lost my mind, found it again and deleted my profile. laboriously, PAINFULLY scrolling through one thousand Facebook pictures in order to find that PERFECT picture. The reason why this process was so painful was because I was looking through the eyes of the big “other”. The other men who would be judging me, maybe harshly so, worthy or unworthy of their time and attention strictly based on the pictures and words strategically strung together on my profile (insert something here about a pot and kettle). How do we come to want what we want from our romantic partners? With an approving “like” men were saved to my profile as matches and with a disapproving “dislike” they disappeared, never to be seen again.The scene of a calm man wearing Birkenstocks and orange yoga pants, giving nature tours on meditation retreats immediately came to mind. “Brandon, that man you just explained, sounds nothing like you! Even more importantly, how does this sorting lead to my own suffering?

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Am I the only one who has had an acutely maddening online dating experience?

(I also got to experience that tumultuous rush of feelings and insights that only come from discovering something you reeeaaally don’t like about yourself. First, I thought, I’ll add a blurb about all of my accomplishments.

I was convinced that someone out there could make me happy.

We previously wrote a review comparing Match, e Harmony and the best dating websites.

For single seniors, we’d suggest signing up with one of those three (read our vs e Harmony comparison review for more) or Perfect Match (300,000 profiles of people 65 or older).

Am I the only one who has had an acutely maddening online dating experience?

(I also got to experience that tumultuous rush of feelings and insights that only come from discovering something you reeeaaally don’t like about yourself. First, I thought, I’ll add a blurb about all of my accomplishments.

I was convinced that someone out there could make me happy.

We previously wrote a review comparing Match, e Harmony and the best dating websites.

And at several points I will refer to Sakyong Mipham’s book Ruling Your World: Ancient Strategies for Modern Life, because in the midst of my craziness his book was sort-of a lifeline for me. Buddha: reflections on Internet dating, the dharma and one Shambhala warrior’s failed attempt to find love online. Why do I choose the romantic partners that I choose? And what do the answers to these questions reveal about myself on this path towards spiritual awakening?